Telling my Kids They Won’t Get to Meet their Sister

My wife is now twenty-one weeks pregnant, and our daughter has Turner Syndrome.  It is a very emotional time for both of us.  There are many great people with Turner Syndrome – but the majority of unborn children with Turners will not be born; and ours, according to multiple doctors, is one of those situations.

Because we did not know that anything was wrong until after we had begun telling people we were expecting our first two children were very excited.  They debated back and forth (as much as a four year old and two year old can) on what would be better, a sister (who might want their stuff) or a brother (who might get toys they didn’t want to play with).  Fast forward to now: due to all the swelling in our baby, Karah is already measuring thirty-two weeks, but is only halfway through the pregnancy.  A couple weeks ago we decided we had to tell Jovi and Jaspyn what was going on.

Every night we read a bedtime story (or two), sing a couple songs, and pray before we tuck the girls into bed.  We decided to be honest but not too technical with them.

“Girls, listen, I need to listen to this, it is important.  Jaxlee is sick inside Mommy’s tummy.”  Jovi’s face fell.  My chest tightened seeing her reaction and I was, am, so proud of how much sympathy, empathy, and love she has in her heart.  She loves Jaspyn so much, and she wanted Jaxlee here to love her too.  We didn’t know everything then that we know now.  We brought them to the last specialist appointment with us so they could hear her heartbeat, see her feet on the ultrasound; we were supposed to see her facial features but because of the swelling nothing could be distinguished…  And that’s all they’ll get.  Not only do we not get to bring our daughter home, we don’t get to bring their sister home…  it sucks.

We do believe that unborn children to go to Heaven, and we are teaching our children that.  We’ve told them Jaxlee won’t get to come home with us because she needs to go ahead and be in heaven and we will get to see her later (when we get there, after the end of a full and long naturally lived life (hopefully)).

About Kyle Souza
Kyle is a family oriented nerdy guy with a “day job” doing a wide veriaty of things and a blog talking about a wide variety of things.

Why Are More and More Families Homeschooling?

The family is the basic unit of society. Not everything society teaches or how it teaches is best for your child. There are various reasons why families are switching. More and more parents are homeschooling their kids because they want to be closer to their child’s growth.

When I first heard about homeschooling, my initial thought was, it should be more ‘convenient’. See, your child not needing to physically attend classes anymore, less packed lunch preparation time, no more forced morning classes and a lot more. On the other hand, the first question that came to me was, is it going to be more expensive? The answer will really depend on the financial situation and the current tuition fee you pay for your child’s school.

These factors should not be the main priority. You might want to ask yourself other factors to consider first, such as: what can homeschooling offer my children? Is it something that could help them have more flexibility and opportunity?

The way I see regular schools for most parents is that, sending their children to regular schools frees their time to take the responsibility of teaching their own kids. It allows them to have more ‘me’ time, or time for other things.

Imagine a family that travels a lot. Some schools could be lenient when it comes to attendance, but not conduct special classes for your children for lost time. The students will still be subject to exams and project deadlines. Due to this, the child will be bouncing back and forth to different styles of teaching. This might be stressful for the student and even for the teacher.

Even if we have anti-bullying laws and campaigns do you still want to expose your child to a life based on laws that work only when the act is already done? The world might be progressing in terms of laws and technology, but the basic laws of survival of the fittest may still be at play in some families.

Homeschooling prevents these things from happening to a child at the age when they are still growing. Building a strong moral foundation for your child is essential and this can only be done within the family. You can teach and express without discrimination.

Homeschooling offers you and your child freedom. Freedom from the regular school systems which are focusing less on morals and education. Schools have a regulated system that will be in line with what you government requires to be taught based on their studies. This type of system is not appreciated by many families. It could be good enough for those families living in countries which have a better economy, but for those families who live in third world countries, it might be a totally different story. There is a high possibility that even those private schools which middle-class families can afford don’t really provide quality education.

Families are growing more and more restless to the degrading quality of traditional schools which present a learning Utopia for kids, but in reality are nothing better that the other.

Quality growth starts at home. Homeschooling has everyone at home on their feet when study time comes. Some families find this activity fun and an awesome way to grow and learn together with their children building a strong bond for their future.

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Mimi Rothschild is a veteran homeschooling mother of 8, writer of a series of books called Cyberspace for Kids, and passionate advocate for children and education that is truly worthy of them. In 2001, Mimi and her late husband founded Learning By Grace, a leading provider of online Christian homeschooling Academies. 

 

The Best Over 50 Dating Site – OurTime.com

There are seemingly innumerable dating sites for those over 50 that can be found online. However, OurTime.com seeks to be different in its approach, offering a more modern appeal that provides active people over 50 with a way to meet safely online.

How it Works

You start by taking a few moments to fill out the registration form and then you are free to upload your personal file with information and photos. The system itself is fairly easy to use and provides a platform for live chat and messaging just like most online dating sites.

After uploading your information, the site itself works in many ways like other dating sites in that you can scan the members available, send out flirts or winks, and use the messaging or live chat service to talk to those who answer your invitation. Of course, people can find your profile and offer invitations to converse as well.

OurTime.com attempts to combine the familiarity of older online dating sites with updated aesthetics that make it easier, as well as more attractive, to search, find, and converse with those who you find interesting. It is the culmination of years of work and attempts to update the traditional online dating site.

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Advantages

There are a few ways that OurTime.com stands out from most other online over 50 dating sites dedicated to those over 50 years old.

Clean Interface: Arguably the most notable aspect is the clean interface which makes it easy to navigate the site. It also makes it more attractive and the aesthetics make it noticeable different than many other dating sites you’ll find online.

Mobile Friendly: While most online dating sites have become friendly to mobile devices over the past few years, OurTime.com stands out thanks to its clean interface and simple, yet elegant style. This means that it is easy to find what you want while using your smartphone or tablet.

Casual Features: Another interesting advantage is that OurTime.com is rather simple and straightforward when it comes to uploading information. After you put in some basic info about yourself, you can narrow your search for others simply by indicating the body type of those that you find attractive. Continue reading “The Best Over 50 Dating Site – OurTime.com”